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The Power Of Forgiveness

The power of forgiveness is incredible. It is the exact opposite of bearing a grudge.
Once you let go of your grudge and let the other person go free in your own mind, an amazing transformation takes place inside of you.
The corroding power of the grudge starts losing it’s power over you. You find that you will no longer attract the same crappy, destructive relationships into your life. This is because you have just made use of the law of attraction. Usually we think of this in terms of good things happening, but it is equally true regarding negativity.
The things we dwell on have power over us. They also contain an energy that demands fulfillment, good or bad, it just doesn’t matter. It is like gravity, it just is, regardless of your intentions or who you are.
Does the other person have to apologize?

No, not at all! If this were the case, not much would ever be forgiven! No, each person needs to be responsible for his own thoughts and actions. As long as you blame the other person you will not be free. This grudge has power over you and will continue to fester like an infection of the soul.

Besides, you cannot control the other person anyway! it goes against logic to let go, but it is just this letting go that enables you to actually help the other person. Once you are free from the negative thoughts you become indifferent to those things the other person did/does and are in a position to be of some help.

This is a wonderfully liberating experience and can be a lot like a rebirth of hope and clarity. Let it go, move on, focus on what is important.

The best advice is to focus on your own life, here and now. Only in this way will you be able to love and be loved.

Posted by admin on November 10th, 2008

What Are The Symptoms Of Menopause: Dry Skin

What are the symptoms of menopause is a series of articles dealing with the symptoms of menopause. One of the more common menopause symptoms is dry skin.

Dry skin affects everyone at one time or another, but it is especially troublesome during menopause and perimenopause. Dry skin is an indication that your body is lacking in the necessary hormones to maintain healthy skin. The good news is that there are some rather simple, common sense techniques you can do on your own to get some menopause relief.

What do hormones have to do with dry skin?

Many people might think that the best solution for dry skin is to use an expensive skin cream. In reality, healthy skin is made from the inside. It may help temporarily to apply moisturizers and such, but to effectively treat dry skin you must give your body what it needs to heal itself.

As the reproductive hormones slow down in production, there are fewer oils available for the skin to keep it’s elasticity and youthfulness. This can cause the skin to become dry, itchy and flaky.

The essential fatty acids found in a healthy diet are also responsible for maintaining healthy skin. All too often though, modern diets are big on the wrong foods and short on the foods that promote health and well being.

Dry skin, wrinkles and aging skin

By the mid thirties, most women begin to notice more wrinkles, aging skin and dryness.

You can learn much more about what are the symptoms of menopause at our website: Stress and Family Health

Posted by admin on November 6th, 2008

Jealousy And Breakup Advice

Some of the best breakup advice you can get is to examine your situation to see if one of the main problems is due to jealousy. More specifically, your jealousy.

Jealousy is the cancer of love. It can and will destroy any and all goodness to be found. Like it’s cousin envy, jealousy has such a power that Soloman said it is as strong as death!

Very often, the one suffering from jealousy is convinced that the problem is caused by the behavior of their mate, so they feel justified. As long as this persists, jealousy will reign like a malevolent dictator. No amount of breakup advice will help until the one suffering from jealousy accepts responsibility for his own behavior.

What can be done about jealousy?
Because jealousy is deeply rooted in personal insecurity, you need to begin working on your own insecurities. It does no good to focus on your partner, you are the one who needs to change. Even if your partner does questionable things, you still need to focus on your own life.

The best breakup advice is to focus on your own life, here and now. When you feel those inner churnings of unrest, consciously say to yourself, “I need to focus on my own like, here and now.” It is amazing how powerful this can be.

How do you work on your own life?
Here is a great tool. Assuming that you are on a good communication level with your partner, you can do this exercise together. Ask her to tell you the 5 things she likes or loves the most about you. Then, you tell her the 5 things you like or love about her. You can even mention that you heard about this in connection with getting help for jealousy. Sounds simple, and it is. Yet, once you do this, several good things happen.
For one, she sees that you are interested in getting help for your problem. You might be surprised at the answers, which give you several areas to focus on. Most people talk about the things they don’t like in the other, but now you have some positive areas to work on!

Now you realize that you have some qualities that she likes about you. This is certainly encouraging! For example, say she mentions your ability to have a conversation. Take this as an area to focus on. You might do some reading on subjects you two enjoy, or learn about something that you find interesting. You want to be an even better conversationalist.

She might say that she likes the way you are considerate of her. You are a gentleman. Ah, now you know what she likes and can become an even better man. This gives you confidence inside and will help you not to feel inadequate when she is with other men. You might still feel those twinges of jealousy, but because you are building up your own self-esteem, you trust that she can be friendly and still be truly yours.

You can read the entire article about jealousy and breakup advice at our website: Stress and Family Health

Posted by admin on October 31st, 2008

What Are The Symptoms Of Menopause: Fuzzy Thinking, For Sure!

This part of what are the symptoms of menopause deals with something very familiar to women in menopause: fuzzy thinking.

How often have you forgotten your car keys, right after you put them down? Or your reading glasses? Some women have 5 or 6 pairs of glasses because they just cannot keep track of them! Of course, this may not have anything to do with the symptoms of menopause, but very often it is one of the most common symptoms: fuzzy thinking.

Frequently, fuzzy thinking means that your body is trying to tell you that it is overburdened, stressed out and in need of some attention. The stresses of modern day living, with it’s multi-tasking and endless bombardment of information can take a huge toll on your hormonal balance. This imbalance can cause the very annoying menopause symptom of fuzzy thinking.

What causes fuzzy thinking?

When the body is overburdened it automatically shuts down for a spell. It is just a simple matter of survival. Imagine a filing cabinet full of folders that keep getting more and more added until it is over-capacity. Add a lack of adequate rest, poor nutrition, too much caffeine, etc. and the stage is set for a period of fuzzy thinking.

During menopause it is normal for the hormones to slow down production. This can easily cause a hormonal imbalance that sets off the foggy, clouded thinking. Try as you might, something is just missing and you cannot focus or concentrate. This is because the necessary hormones are simply not there in adequate supply.

What can you do about fuzzy thinking?

Read more on our website: http://safemenopauserelief.com We have a series of articles that ask what are the symptoms of menopause and treat each one individually.

Posted by admin on October 30th, 2008

How To Keep Your Lover Alive

Recently I got a most interesting Power Point presentation. It is about how we try to keep the one we love in a cage, and how to keep from putting our loved one in a cage. I have thought about this a great deal since receiving it, and it is certainly true.

It was written in Portuguese, and is a poem, so it may take some effort to get it. It is my own translation as well!

The Cage, by Luiz Carlos Peralva

There are those made with iron and padlocks.
But the more subtle are made by desire.
Strangely, I will tell you that the soul is a library.
It contains the stories we love:
Romeo and Juliet, The English Patient, Abelard and Heloise, Bridges of Madison County, Love In The Time Of Cholera,
The Girl and The Enchanted Bird, and so on.
These stories that we love reveal the shape of our desire.
Just pick any one of them.

This is our cage. With our cage in hand we go into life hoping to capture our bird. When we imagine that we have

found it-what happiness!
We happily put it into our cage.

It will be the love in our own story of love. You are for me and I am for you. We put it in the cage and ask it to

give us songs of love.

As it turns out, the bird has it’s own story. And the story is different. Every bird wants to fly. It beats its

wings against the bars, it’s feathers begin to lose their edge and color, it is transformed in tears.
But suddenly, it has changed, it can no longer be recognized. It is something else. This is the reason that the

sorrow of passion satisfied is much better.

When told like this, the story seems to have a villain and a victim. In reality, both are victims and both are

villains. People always want to cage in the other and lead in down their own path. This applies everywhere:
husband and wife, mother and son, father and daughter, boss and worker, teacher and student…
No wonder Sarte said that “hell is the other one!”

But there is a way out.
I recall the short poem by Perls that suggests the possibility of a relationship without cages.

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful.
If not, it can’t be helped.
(Fritz Perls, 1969)

This part about doing your own thing used to sound to me like an excuse to be selfish. But taken in the context of the Cage poem, it makes perfect sense.

Posted by admin on October 26th, 2008

Just What Are The Symptoms Of Menopause?

The symptoms of menopause can range from mildly irritating to completely devastating. They can leave you feeling as if you might be losing your mind, and as if you are the only one suffering!

So, what are the symptoms of menopause? Here is a rather complete list.

  • Insomnia or restless sleep

  • Irregular periods

  • Anxiety

  • Headaches

  • Hot flashes

  • Night sweats

  • Weight gain

  • Feelings of depression or feeling overwhelmed

  • Fuzzy thinking, confusion

  • Stiffness of the joints

  • Digestive issues

  • Cravings for sweets or carbohydrates

  • Irritability and mood swings

  • Loss of desire

  • PMS

  • Dry skin

  • Hair loss

  • Adult acne

  • Breast pain

  • Heart palpitations

  • Urinary dysfunction

  • Unwanted hair growth

  • Fatigue

  • Vaginal dryness

As you can see, the symptoms of menopause are very extensive, no wonder so many women are seeking menopause relief! When most people ask what are the symptoms of menopause, they are surprised at the lengthy list!

What can you do about the symptoms of menopause?

Find out by visiting our main web site at www.SafeMenopauseRelief.com

Posted by admin on October 18th, 2008

The Gestalt “Prayer” Is Something To Consider

Recently, after I returned from my blissful trip to Brazil, I received one of those forwarded emails that contained a slide show based on what is known as the Gestalt Prayer.

I would link to the slide show, but it is in Portuguese! Anyway, the “prayer” is as follows:

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful.
If not, it can’t be helped.
(Fritz Perls, 1969)

I recalled this from the early 70’s and I recall not really liking it much. I think the phrase of doing my own thing just rubbed me the wrong way. It sounded too much like selfishness and disregard for others.

Now, in the context of the slide show, which was about how we tend to corrupt our romantic love and turn it into a self-serving, idealistic but unrealistic prison, I have been thinking a lot about this.

Turns out this is not really a prayer, but more a statement of prinicple by the founder of a most interesting movement called Gestalt therapy.

Here is a link that can give you all kinds of food for thought. It is academic and takes some chewing, but I find it very interesting.

I think my lady in Brazil, who sent this to me, is more or less a natural at living in this way. It is somewhat typical of the mentality there. Live in the moment, take experiences for what they are, not what they “should be, or should’ve been.”

I think I have a lot to learn….

Posted by admin on October 17th, 2008

Personal Stress Management In The Workplace

There are many factors pressing in on today’s workers that can add massive amounts of stress. Stress management in the workplace is more relevant than ever, and there are many simple techniques you can learn to use.

Some tips for stress management in the workplace that you can use

  • Learn how to let the bird fly overhead without making a nest in your head. Not all problems need to be yours, in fact, many times we can just let them pass us by. There is a tendency to take things too personally and dwell on them. Often we assume problems of others unconsciously, and suffer for it.
  • Try to leave work at work. Sometimes scenes from the day play over and over in our head while we cringe at the outcome. We die the same death again and again. Let it go. Come to a resolution and occupy yourself with other things.


Read more on our website: Stress and Family Health

Posted by admin on October 13th, 2008

Stress Management To The Extreme–Brazil!

Well, I think I have found the answer to stress management: visit somebody you love in Brazil! I bet it would work everytime.

I have been here about one week, and it only took a few hours to feel my body letting go of anxiety. These people are generally so happy and friendly, it is contagious.

The beach never seems to end and during the week there are few people on the beach. At night there are miles and miles of lovely beach and little groups of people relaxing. When you don´t demand a lot, you can be happy with much less: like conversation, walking, sipping on a coconut, singing, dancing and laughing.

One night there was a little parade of high school aged musicians, including two lead dancers. They were playing some traditional music from the area and had the two dancers out in front.

When they saw my lady dancing to herself they invited her to lead the parade! She kicked off her flip flops and danced to her hearts content with the two others.

It was impossible not to smile and hold still. They exchanged moves and shared little tips as they danced, until her feet got too sore! What a lot of fun.

Stress? What stress?

Posted by admin on October 1st, 2008

How to Reduce your Electricity Bills

The power of electricity can be best realized when you utilize it effectively. With the demand of the electricity skyrocketing and the supply drooping, saving a single unit of power becomes very significant. Here are a 15 effective tips to save electricity and thus save the money.

1. Switch off the lights, TV, computer, etc., when not in use.

2. Use fluorescent lamps instead of incandescent lamps. Fluorescent lamps not only help to save the electricity, but they also provide a better lighting and are cost effective too.

3. Use dimmer controls in your incandescent lamps so that you can adjust the intensity of the light.

4. Minimize the use of air coolers and air conditioners. Instead, use the fans, whenever possible.

5. Electric iron is a real power hog. If you use it carefully, you can save a considerable amount of energy. Instead of doing daily ironing, do it on a weekly basis.

6. Operate the air conditioner in the minimum temperature range possible in order to save power. Keep it under medium or low operation condition and set the temperature a little higher.  Take the help of nature to save the electricity. Try to utilize the warmth of the sun whenever available in the winter, and the coolness of the garden in the summer instead of crouching near the air conditioners always.

7. The ideal temperature to operate a refrigerator is between 36 to 42o F. If the temperature is kept lower than this, it would be simply a wastage of power.

8. While operating your heaters in the winter, reduce the temperature level to a couple of degrees lower than that in the normal conditions.

9. If you are using laser printers in your office or home, keep a watch on it. It can draw your electricity bills up by hundreds of watts! Try to save maximum power by using it minimum, and keep the power switch off while not in use.

10. Use of smaller gadgets will help reducing the power to great extent. A microwave oven can be preferred to a regular electric oven, and so is an electric kettle to a stovetop one.

11. Minimize the use of hair dryer.

12. Control the use of smaller gadgets such as electric clocks, telephone answering machines, DVD players, cable TV converters, etc. Though they seem insignificant, the compounded effect of these instruments in multiplying your electricity bill cannot be ignored.

13. Keep a watch on the electricity meter. Have a regular estimation of the meter reading yourself to detect any unexpected power leakage from the circuit.

14. Use the modern gadgets that apply the energy-saving technology.

15. Do not open the door of the electric oven or the refrigerator unnecessarily.

To get more help on saving the electricity bill, visit the websites of the electricity department and also the utility services to learn other specific ways of saving power. Each gadget will have its own specific ways of reducing the power. The more you save the electricity at your home or office now, the more will be available for you in the future.

Visit our website: Stress And Family Health to learn all about managing family stress in these crazy times!

Posted by admin on September 25th, 2008