Wouldn’t it be great to accomplish more every day, especially if you could do it with less stress? Typically, people think in terms of rushing about, deadlines, and hyper-focusing in order to get more done. This only adds to the stress and anxiety levels, which are probably already high.

It is human nature to avoid suffering, to procrastinate, pass the buck and so on. Obviously, not much gets done in that case! People will go to great lengths to put things off and avoid responsibility. We all know first hand what it is like to put things off and later regret it.

Everybody knows the terrible feeling of neglecting something important, and having to answer for it. This churning in the pit of the stomach is an awful price to pay for neglecting to take care of a responsibility.

Take for example paying a parking fine. Nobody likes to pay such a fine, so often it gets put off and forgotten. Soon, the $10 parking fine is $20, then $40! It multiplies until you pay it and finally you get around to it.

There is a simple way to avoid this suffering and stress, and anyone can make use of it, even children! At first glance it seems ridiculously simple and insignificant, but as you begin to practice this method, you soon discover how powerful and far reaching it really is.

The way to reduce stress and suffering is……

You can find out at our website: www.stress-familyhealth.net We have resources to help your family deal with the stress of modern life.

Some years ago I worked in Seattle with a young man from Viet-Nam named Zip. I don’t know what his real name was, but we called him Zip because he was fully alive and zipping around all the time.

I got to know him fairly well and heard many of his stories. In short, he had been put in some kind of a re-education camp by the Viet-Cong as a teenager. They used to beat him regularly for insubordination, usually with some kind of bamboo sticks while he was lying on the ground.

Finally, he managed to escape with 7 other people in a little boat. The boat was barely able to keep afloat and the water was always sloshing over the edge, making them to constantly bail the water out.

They also quickly ran out of fresh water and some drank their own urine. He refused to though. One day a barrel of fresh water actually floated up to their boat and saved them!

Eventually they ended up in Hong Kong, where they were processed and sent to host countries. Zip ended up in the Seattle area. He was penniless, spoke no English, knew nobody and had no marketable skill.

In a few short years he managed to save money, learn English well, learn the difficult trade of injection mold making, and make friends! Absolutely amazing, really!

For the life of me I cannot understand why so many kids born here in the USA can be so complacent and not care less about things. They have everything imaginable available, yet so many won’t suffer at all in order to make something of their life.

Maybe it is because they haven’t had to when they were little. Everything was given by loving parents who wanted the best for their children. Somehow it often backfires and they end up with thankless kids who feel entitled to everything.

What could be the trigger to awaken them to the possibilities right in front of them? Some young people eventually get it, but by that time they are adults and have to backpedal to make up for lost time.

One good resource to help with the parenting of out of control teens is available as an audio/ebook. Many, many parents have been greatly helped by this ebook. Here is one testimony:

“I think my biggest problem
was that I didn’t change the
things that weren’t working.
I kept using the same
parenting strategies and
hoped for different results.
This turned out to be almost
as big a problem as not trying
to fix problems in the first
place. For example, I thought
that threatening to do this or
that was an effective form of
discipline — but since I had to
use it each day to correct the
same problem, it should have
been obvious that it was not a
good strategy. I have better
tools in my parenting toolbox
now. Thanks for all your
help.” – G.B.

Find out more here.

You can also visit our website to find more about dealing with family stress.

Recently it came to me that living with a loved one who suffers from a personality disorder is like being in the rabbit hole of Alice and Wonderland. I’m not really too sure about the actual story, but I am quite sure that some people live in a crazy world of sideways is right side up and inside is outside.

The main thing is that you do not stay there with them for too long! It is also essential to have healthy friends and good influences in your personal life. Otherwise, it is far too easy to “be under the influence” and the next thing you know you have the weird feeling of the rabbit hole!

Cleanse yourself, use your faith, get new ideas from good literature, play music, dance, go for walks, sing a lot, read poetry, make things, learn new things, be friendly and meet new people! These things can make all the difference in you life.

Then you will be in a position to help the ones you love. Our website has more info on living with personality disorders and you can find excellent resources to help you.

Mind Tools is a very good company with an excellent course to help people learn to manage their own personal stress. You can find out more here.